Adults often talk a good game, but our actions train children to do the opposite. We want children to think outside the box, but teach them to conform in everything we do. We want them to communicate clearly, but speak in tones to mask feelings or true meaning. How can we develop problem solvers if we are always solving their problems?
I am in no way removing myself from this situation, because I am guilty of this with my children and students. I do think that becoming aware of how our actions are training children, we can at least be conscious of the choices we make when dealing with children.
Garskof, J. (March 2014). The ready-for-anything mind. Scholastic: Parent & Child, 21(5), 62-66.